HOW'S YOUR JOB SEARCH GOING?

How to manage this sometimes frustrating question.

If you’ve ever had the experience of job search you’ll know the feelings that can come up when well meaning partners, family and friends ask the inevitable question- “so how’s the job search going”. If this simple question causes you stress, anger or at least frustration, then here are some ways to deal it.

But first let’s back it up a bit. At the outset, share with your partner and family members that job search is a process much like launching a new product into the market. You need reflection time to identify what you want and what you have to offer, what value you bring and what differentiates you. You also need your resume, linked in profile, verbal presentation and search strategy to be perfectly aligned so you can then market yourself successfully.

Job search success will come with a planned, realistic and persistent approach- not a manic shot gun approach that might seem productive but actually damages your brand and opportunities. Share with your family your plans and the reality of your plans.

If you are active in the job market and the family member has asked you the same question 100 times, and there is nothing really to discuss - say so: for example “things are quiet and I’m finding it tough getting in front of decision makers but I’m still being purposeful and persisting. Thanks for asking and I’ll keep you posted.” Full stop. This is short sweet and closes the conversation. However, if a person is interested and you want to open up the conversation, say something like “I'm still at it and having some good conversations. Things are progressing - albeit more slowly than I’d like. What I’m trying to do is to get more introductions into people in the ........ industry or who have made a similar transition to what I’m targeting. It’d be great to get their thoughts and advice. Can you think of anyone who might be able to help me with that?”

With family, the question can often be backed up with “so what did you do today" further exacerbating the situation. Even if nothing concrete happened or was achieved I’m sure you did something- you most likely thought of your job search more than you needed to, but remember, it’s a bit like running a project- make sure milestones are hit and purposeful actions delivered upon and you can share these activities - but recognise that applying for 10 jobs a day doesn’t equal a productive job search- some days doing nothing but giving yourself some breathing space is the best action you can take or researching target companies but most importantly aim to get talking to people in your network in a planned way.

These suggestions apply as much to holiday season parties and functions etc. Don’t avoid them nor the conversation but be prepared and considered about your approach.

Another important point - please please do not say you’re retiring - that will always close off possibilities and move the conversation to golf and other subjects that, unless you really mean it won’t be helpful at all. I see this all too often.

For those going through job search- best wishes and give yourself a well deserved break during the festive season but don't slow down until just before Christmas. Many organisations hurry to fill vacancies and candidates pull back applying for roles until the new year so the pool of candidates is less. Also people seem to have a bit more time for networking meetings.

Finally, if you haven't already done so, think about engaging an experienced coach who will have your interests at heart and who can have a very positive impact on you, whilst you traverse this challenging time.